Today I want to talk about family. Here I am, wearing my mother’s 30 year old dress,and the boots my husband gave me as a Christmas present, photos taken by my father, featuring the new family member: my parent”s dog Bruno. Today I want to talk about how much I resemble my family and how much I don’t. I am the girl that has her mother’s features but her dad’s colours. A perfect blend of personalities of both of her parents. And yet, a very different personality from her brother. I’m also the girl with a set of values my family embedded in me both by example and education.
But I’m also the girl who left home 11 years ago and shortly after built her own life in a different country, that has a set of friends that couldn’t be more culturally diverse. A girl that speaks English with her Romanian husband. A tourist that when people ask me where I’m coming from I don’t know whether to say UK or Romania. A Romanian that when I go back to my home country I can’t find my place and I’m not sure how the system works.
I am not the only one, there’s more and more people like me. People who choose to build a life far from their traditional family. Far from that feeling you get when you know someone is always there for you, far from your mother’s cooking and the feeling of belonging. It wasn’t easy but now I can finally say I’ve found my peace, a type of peace that comes with guilt. The more comfortable I become in a different country, the less chances I’ll be there for my parents’ birthdays, doctor appointments, Christmas and so on. I’ve got the perfect family, too bad it’s split between two countries.
P.S. If you are a Friends fan, you know where the title comes from. It’s Dan’s favourite episode, when Chandler & Joe compete with Rachel & Monica on the apartment. It’s All Relative are the set questions about family.
Dress & Belt – Vintage | Boots – Louis Vuitton