What I’ve learnt from being married for one year

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I never believed in the fairytale wedding scenario. I remember being just a child and thinking to myself – how do you know when someone’s meant to be with you forever? Now I know the answer: you just know. I simply knew I was meant to spend the rest of my life with Dan. It just felt right and exciting. So here’s what I’ve learnt from my very short married experience.

Weddings are fun

I am so glad we got to have two weddings – we just had the best fun in the world. So here’s my advice to you: if you are definitely against having a wedding, just do a small party with your loved ones. Make sure you celebrate your relationship somehow. It’s just so full of joy and happiness and goosebumps. It’s a perfect occasion for a party, just think about it: celebrating two people that are in love, celebrating getting a new family – it’s exciting for everyone!

You feel more settled

This is society messing with my head but I swear since I got married I feel more settled. It’s weird, I didn’t need a paper to know that Dan will be beside me forever. But somehow it just made it all sound more reassuring. I know it’s silly, but I’m here to be honest.

Butterflies come again

I am so much more in love since we got married, it’s crazy! It’s all the excitement I guess. Maybe also postponing our honeymoon for a year was a good thing too. It kept the momentum going if that makes sense. It’s the small things too, calling your partner “husband” or hearing him call you “wife”. Yes, it’s as cheesy at is sounds, but it feels so gooood.

It motivates you

I often hear jokes like, you got married that’s it, you can now get lazy and fat and so on. Like life ends when you get married. Since last year I have become more preoccupied with how I look and what I do career wise. I really want to make my husband proud. It’s kind of like I just realised it’s forever so I want to make sure he’ll always be interested in me, in how I look, in what I do and what I say. (and gosh I do talk a lot, so might as well be interesting!) It’s like extra motivation to get to the next level.

Baby topics are very common

If I could have a penny for every time we get asked when we’re going to have babies.. It’s fine though, it doesn’t bother me – sometimes it’s just a question to break the ice. Lately I’ve been seeing a lot of people get offended by this question and say it’s a personal matter. I agree, it is a personal matter, but I also think it’s just a courtesy question that doesn’t need to be taken seriously. People are asking for the sake of conversation, not to know the ins and outs of your reproductive thoughts.

Nothing has to change if you don’t want to

I refused to change my surname and many people got mental about it. I don’t even know why, it’s none of their business. So let me tell you why I decided to keep my name: because it’s so much more practical! I’m sorry, but I really don’t want to take days off to go all the way to the embassy to London to change all my paperwork. Then go back to Romania to change all my bank account details too. Oh and don’t forget about the drivings licence and all the bank accounts in the UK. Oh an also I like my name and I don’t want to. The thing is, marriage can be however you want it to be. You don’t have to follow all the silly social rules. It’s what matters to you and your partner. Besides my name, most of my life stayed the same. Just a bit more exciting.

What are your thoughts on marriage? let me know 🙂 

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Wedding Attire from PrettyLittleThing

Wedding season is upon us and I for one absolutely love it. What’s not to like? You get people celebrating love, a lot of food, dancing all night, buying new clothes and having cake without feeling bad about it. And speaking about buying new clothes – I am very excited to share with you today three different outfit ideas based on what kind of wedding you will be attending. There are three things I always keep in mind when picking my wedding attire: it needs to match the wedding theme/venue, it needs to be comfortable and it cannot be too over the top. You ain’t the bride, so you don’t need to steal the show. But you still need to feel beautiful and confident.

PrettyLittleThing has just the right wedding guest dresses for you. 

Garden weddings are often based on nudes and pastel colours. It’s like a box of macaroons, where you get to pick your favourite shade. I do love my pinks so I had to go for a lilac/pinky dress. This cut is extremely flattering on every bodyshape, and the strings in the back make it even easier to adjust. That’s why it would make a great bridesmaid dress too. The good news is that if you want to go ahead and buy this dress for your brides squad, it’s only £30. And it also comes in grey. You’re welcome.

I do love wearing a red dress as it doesn’t happen very often. It’s the perfect outfit for a glam wedding. The frills on the side of the dress give me the impression I’m somewhere in Spain, drinking sangria and showing my dancing moves on Despacito. So I decided to pair it with some vintage mules. But change the shoes into something glittery, put some bling on and you’ve completely changed the outfit. Either way, you don’t need to do much – this dress is a gorgeous statement on its own.

Summer weddings on a very sunny day are the best. But then there’s a catch: it can easily become sweaty and sticky, especially for us being used to the typical British weather. For this occasion is best to keep your makeup minimal, your hair natural and your dress as flowy and breezy as possible. I love that this PrettyLittleThing dress is cute, formal enough but still perfect to wear on other occasions too.

Thank you PrettyLittleThing for being so awesome and helping me create this blog post. I hope you guys got some inspiration and don’t forget to check the new wedding guest dresses here.

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