2018.. what a year!
A career change, a new house, made some new very good friends, visited Asia for the first time, followed by many other trips, gained my first 1000 followers on Instagram and also was part of a blogger campaign that I couldn’t be more proud of. You guessed it, it’s the time to sit down and reflect on our previous twelve months!
I love beginnings, and I always get excited over a new year. If 2018 was great, well 2019 is going to be even better. If 2018 was bad, now is the time to click refresh and make a change. It’s always a win-win situation.
You see, I am a very goal oriented person, always have been and I’m writing this to encourage you to embrace this habit of goal making. There’s still many out there that like to eye roll every time someone mentions new year, new me. I know it’s cliche and I know that sometimes we forget about what we want and we get comfortable and lazy. But you know what else we get? Frustration. and wasted time. So how do you want to feel this time next year?
I find that there’s two types of people out there: those who have goals, like to revise their past actions and like to plan their future. And those who just go with the flow and think you’re too stiff if you plan everything. And I get it, planning everything can be extremely boring. But you don’t have to have a million goals, start with one. I’m sure there’s at least one thing you really want to change or improve but you keep postponing it.
I for one am very happy with this year’s achievements and very grateful for all the opportunities I had. You know the saying, the harder you work, the luckier you get. This is the biggest lesson 2018 has given me: consistent hard work pays off. Because you see, everything I’ve put in the first paragraph of this article has been written in my diary a year ago. And that’s why I think this yeas has been good one for me. Because I’ve achieved what I wanted.
Now I’m sat here in our office, making a plan for the next year to come, thinking of my recent trip back home. My dad put up all my old paintings and I was looking through them. There’s this one with an ant, climbing on a tree. And there’s a text attached to it that says something like: I’m just an ant, I can’t see the sun when I’m on the ground, all the flowers and grass are covering everything. So I need to climb higher than ever to see the sun, to see the hills, to see the bigger picture and to enjoy all of it. That was back in highschool and I think what I was trying to say was Keep Your Goals High.
Wearing Karen Millen Skirt | Primark Top | Ray Ban Sunglasses | TK Maxx Boots | Bag borrowed from my friend
We’re approaching the festive season, a period where we have at least one reason to dress up. Maybe it’s a work-do, a friends reunion, a Christmas party, fancy dinner or just the NYE, there’s no excuse! I love this time of year for so many reasons, and fashion is one of them. I tend to get overly busy these days, I rely way too much on my dry shampoo, forget what shaving means and let’s just say I’m lucky to be blonde because gosh I do tend to forget about my eyebrows! It’s comfortable don’t get me wrong, but it doesn’t feel that good. I love it when I get to play around with makeup and get to wear a sexy dress. It’s a similar feeling I have after I’ve been eating healthy for a while or I’ve been working out and I can see some results. I think we should all put some effort into our looks sometimes and now is the perfect occasion to do so.
This silky midi dress is a great example of a chic, yet very comfortable choice. I paired it with these pearled kitten heels. It’s quite a regular shirt cut dress, but because of its silky fabric and high leg slit, this piece could not be sexier. It’s also a great alternative for the ladies out there that don’t feel comfortable in a bodycon dress. And let’s face it, most sexy dresses out there tend to be very tight or very revealing.
Have you thought about what you’ll be wearing at your upcoming events? Let me know, and if you’re still after some ideas I’ve prepped a blog post all about it, coming up soon after this.
I have recently watched a BBC documentary that talked about how damaging the fashion industry is for the environment. It was so bad that I couldn’t sleep all night. You see.. I love fashion, I studied fashion, I work in fashion, I blog about fashion and here it is, excess of fashion damaging our planet. So today I decided to address this matter and make a promise to myself and to this planet: I need to be more careful with my habits and I want to help others reconsider their fashion purchases too.
The thing is, fashion is art in my eyes, it’s about print and fabrics, silhouettes, talent and creativity. Fashion is not buying something new all the time, always following the trends and not wearing an outfit more than once. That’s not fashion, that’s shopping. And it’s hard not to shop, we’re inundated with ads, with prices, always something new and exciting. And not just clothes, but other things too. The only difference is that clothes are more affordable and easier to change around, so we all fall into the trap of buying too many of them. I’m not here to say that we need to stop buying clothes from now on, but there are ways to reduce our fast fashion consumption. And one that I want to mention today is charity & thrift shopping. It’s such a great way to give clothes a second chance, save them from being dumped. Also by buying more vintage, you buy less from the high street – so they’ll have to produce less and less clothes and, subsequently, less and less pollution. Fast fashion is characterless, let’s go back to fun fashion!
It’s no surprise that I’m a fan of vintage shops, I’ve always been and I pride myself in always finding gorgeous timeless pieces. I still buy from the high street, but I try to keep a good balance. So far, this year has been about 50-50 and I’m very proud of that.
You always tell me how hard it is to shop in second hand shops and how you struggle to restyle your pieces. Well, maybe I can help! If you’re based around Manchester and want to make a change but don’t know how to start, I’ll be offering personal styling & shopping services startig from today. I can come over and help you rediscover your wardrobe, we can go charity shopping together and give you tips on how to find items that match your style and preferences. Any questions, get in touch! 😊
I’m wearing trousers & backpack – Charity shops | jumper – Ralph Lauren (mens) | Belt – Tk Maxx | Boots – Office (old)
I am one of the few people that don’t actually have a favourite season. I think they all are very unique in their own way. I was brought up in a country with four proper seasons so I get why many people in England don’t really understand where I’m coming from. I always say this: go for a trip to a country that has the actual season and you’ll see what I mean. Switzerland in winter is just too dreamy. And Austria in the country side during Autumn is still one of the prettiest things I’ve ever seen. I won’t give you examples for summer, summer is pretty good everywhere really. Oh, except England 😂 The thing is, sometimes weather lets us down, so here are some ways to make you feel more cozy and relaxed and really bring the autumn season to your home.
a good movie and an even better book
There’s something so romantic about getting cozy under a blanket while it’s pouring with rain outside. And you’re there, fully emerged into the story of the book, no mobile phones or social media to distract you. I have recently managed to organise our office room and unpacked our book collection that was hiding in boxes for a while now. I remembered again how amazing it is to just sit down and read a book, with nothing else on your mind. I realised this hasn’t happened in months, I was always rushing around and forgot to just take a break. I have preordered 3 new books that will launch in November and I am very excited to give them a go. One of them is by Michelle Obama, called Becoming – I cannot wait to read it. I love Michelle so much, she’s the ultimate female goal – she’s beautiful, she’s very intelligent, hilarious and extremely hard working. Her character is so strong and unique, I wish she was my BFF. You never know, maybe one day!
fall inspired hot drinks
You’ll have to admit that pumpkin hot drinks are a must for autumn and autumn only. It’s the best season and only season when you can really indulge in pumpkin flavoured hot chocolates and teas. I for one like to avoid sugar at any costs so instead opt for flavoured natural teas – my favourite one at the moment is the Nut&Spice package shown above. The best thing about these teas is that they’re all plant based, all natural, they smell like autumn in a cup and they’re actually good for you. I buy mine from Adagio, they have the best variety and it’s all proper loose tea. If you’re a tee fanatic like me, then you should give these a go.
I find myself having more baths than usual, and remember me mentioning reading? Well reading while having a bath is just maximum relaxation level achieved. It can not get any better than this, I’m telling you. When it comes to Autumn, the biggest change in my beauty regime is the face cream. My skin gets more dry than usual so I like to give it a boost with the Estee Lauder – Advanced Repair Ampoules. It’s extremely concentrated, you only need one tiny ampoule per day for a full face of hydrated skin. It doesn’t have oils in it so it’s good for those with mixed/oily skin like me. It’s the most expensive beauty product I’ve ever purchased, but I for one swear by it.
candles and home decor
The other day I ended up picking a bunch of dried leaves to put around the house. It’s the best way to bring some autumn into your home: they’re free, they don’t get dirty and it’s very easy to throw them once you’re ready to move on (onto the Christmas decor!). I also stack on smelly candles and I always get mine from Homesense or TK Maxx. They have the best brands when it comes to natural and strong smells. Most of these are created with natural oils which makes them a bit more pricey, but you’re really paying for the quality. My favourite brand at the moment is DW Candles, they last a long time and smell incredible. My whole house smells like I’ve been baking all day and that’s thanks to the Vanilla Pumpkin Latte candle I’ve got going on.
I have also been playing around with autumn inspired outfits which I show mainly on my Instagram account, so make sure to follow me there. I’d also like to keep my promise and keep up with the Youtube videos, it’s a bit tricky at the moment with this thing called life, but I like to keep my promises so there are some videos in the making! 😊
I find that when I take on a challenge, the hardest thing for me is to carry on if I don’t see any visible results. If I’ve spent a lot of time and effort into something that’s not quite how I wanted it to be, it’s very easy to let go and move on. Or to put it straight: to give up. I mean, when do you know you’re on the right track? How long until you should succeed? How much time should you invest? What about money? When do you stop and when do you carry on? Sometimes it’s not that easy, sometimes it’s not that clear and when results don’t come, your mind is playing tricks on you, telling you you’re not good enough, you’re not made for this and you should probably move on to the next project.
This year has been very challenging from this perspective, but I promised myself I’ll carry on no matter what. It was my mission to suck it in and try and put my faith into the power of consistency. I took that saying “hard work beats talent” and really embraced it. It has been one of the most difficult things I had to do: to carry on white not getting any rewards (mentally, visibly or financially).
This made me thing of all the other times when I just gave up. Don’t get me wrong, some things had to be left in the past but some other things I regret giving up on. You know those people who have no regrets in life? I mean, are they for real? I just don’t get it, I mean .. like none at all, zero, null? I for one, have a long list of regrets. That doesn’t mean my life is ruined, it just means I got to learn from my mistakes. And because of some of these regrets I decided not to give up this time. So in a way, having regrets paid off. Another thing that helped me be more focused was a book by Darren Hardy, called The Compound Effect. It talks about the importance of small steps, how it all adds up and the power of being consistent. It’s a lovely book and I recommend you give it a try. Let’s face it – autumn is the best time to read: cosy blankets, rainy days, fireplace in the background and a glass of wine. I’d love to know what you do to keep you going, any tips and tricks I should know? 🙂
It’s funny how things work.. Last month I had a flicker of creativity, wrote an article quickly and before I knew it, I pressed publish. And there it was. Out for the world to see my weakness. Me, a typical Aries – stubborn, ambitious and with too much personality. So for me to say I couldn’t handle it, was not easy at all.
I was overwhelmed with the messages and the amount of people that contacted me afterwards. First, everyone wanted to know if I’m ok, how I feel and if they could help. It made me feel incredible to see that many people that care.
Secondly, I felt like I started my version of a #metoo campaign. So many of you told me how you’ve been struggling, how you couldn’t do it anymore. And that, basically, we all deal with issues and it’s not as easy breezy – and that it’s harder and harder to find the best opportunity to talk about these things. How do you start a conversation about “I can’t do this anymore?”. In my case, this is how I started the conversation and I ended up talking with many beautiful friends that all had challenges much bigger than mine.
It gave me peace to share this with others and it gave you peace to share your problems with me.
We’re all in this together.
I’m wearing: dress from Shein and the bag belongs to Dan’s grandma. She used it when she was my age, to take food to workers on the fields. It’s older than me and yet, the trendiest accessory for this summer.