When you feel like giving up

I find that when I take on a challenge, the hardest thing for me is to carry on if I don’t see any visible results. If I’ve spent a lot of time and effort into something that’s not quite how I wanted it to be, it’s very easy to let go and move on. Or to put it straight: to give up. I mean, when do you know you’re on the right track? How long until you should succeed? How much time should you invest? What about money? When do you stop and when do you carry on? Sometimes it’s not that easy, sometimes it’s not that clear and when results don’t come, your mind is playing tricks on you, telling you you’re not good enough, you’re not made for this and you should probably move on to the next project.

This year has been very challenging from this perspective, but I promised myself I’ll carry on no matter what. It was my mission to suck it in and try and put my faith into the power of consistency. I took that saying “hard work beats talent” and really embraced it. It has been one of the most difficult things I had to do: to carry on white not getting any rewards (mentally, visibly or financially).

This made me thing of all the other times when I just gave up. Don’t get me wrong, some things had to be left in the past but some other things I regret giving up on. You know those people who have no regrets in life? I mean, are they for real? I just don’t get it, I mean .. like none at all, zero, null? I for one, have a long list of regrets. That doesn’t mean my life is ruined, it just means I got to learn from my mistakes. And because of some of these regrets I decided not to give up this time. So in a way, having regrets paid off. Another thing that helped me be more focused was a book by Darren Hardy, called The Compound Effect. It talks about the importance of small steps, how it all adds up and the power of being consistent. It’s a lovely book and I recommend you give it a try. Let’s face it – autumn is the best time to read: cosy blankets, rainy days, fireplace in the background and a glass of wine. I’d love to know what you do to keep you going, any tips and tricks I should know? 🙂

Wearing top from Shein | Old Zara Skirt | Vintage Bag | Shoes from Dolce & Gabbana 

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We’re all in this together

It’s funny how things work.. Last month I had a flicker of creativity, wrote an article quickly and before I knew it, I pressed publish. And there it was. Out for the world to see my weakness. Me, a typical Aries – stubborn, ambitious and with too much personality. So for me to say I couldn’t handle it, was not easy at all.

I was overwhelmed with the messages and the amount of people that contacted me afterwards. First, everyone wanted to know if I’m ok, how I feel and if they could help. It made me feel incredible to see that many people that care.

Secondly, I felt like I started my version of a #metoo campaign. So many of you told me how you’ve been struggling, how you couldn’t do it anymore. And that, basically, we all deal with issues and it’s not as easy breezy – and that it’s harder and harder to find the best opportunity to talk about these things. How do you start a conversation about “I can’t do this anymore?”. In my case, this is how I started the conversation and I ended up talking with many beautiful friends that all had challenges much bigger than mine.

It gave me peace to share this with others and it gave you peace to share your problems with me.

We’re all in this together.

I’m wearing: dress from Shein and the bag belongs to Dan’s grandma. She used it when she was my age, to take food to workers on the fields. It’s older than me and yet, the trendiest accessory for this summer.

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You Are Stronger Than You Think You Are

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I’ve made it a habit into reviewing my life every time I turn one year older and I usually am not afraid to share my thoughts with you on my blog. It’s been almost a month since I’ve turned 27 and realised I forgot about my good old habit. But no worries, today I’ve finally found the time to talk to you about what I’ve learnt this last year. And that is

You Are Stronger Than You Think You Are

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What many people don’t know is that last year I decided to take on a very exciting journey that literally meant no security, no comfort zone, no nothing. I’m not gonna give you all the cheesy details, but I basically stopped everything I was doing and decided to reinvent myself. The biggest thing was to quit my secure job. Why? Because it just didn’t feel right. Was it easy? Hello no. Was I constantly tempted to go back to how things were? Hell yes. It was frustrating sometimes, very frightening especially at first but I was on a mission. And I stuck to it. It was the best decision I ever made and even though it wasn’t an easy journey, I feel like I’ve learnt so much in the last year, it’s just incredible. And by being this brave  (because this is brave, no modesty needed), I became way more confident and ready to take on new challenges.

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I didn’t just leave my job, I decided to change my mindset. I decided to make the most out of my skills, experience and my goals. I decided to take it to the next level. Some of you might read this and think I must be high or something, but when you get that drive, that desire to do something great, then you’ll know what I mean. And if you have no desire, than you better find one, because you only live once.

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If you’re going through a difficult path right now – career or personal – remember that you are stronger than you think you are, just stay committed. And if you need someone to talk to, to cheer you up and get you going, drop me a message or email 🙂

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